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"Sometimes it's best to get your walls knocked down, lose your most cherished constructs, and be fully swept away." --How to Live at the Beach, by Sandy Gingras

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Location: Kailua, HI, United States

I'm a stay-at-home momma to 2 little ones, military spouse, and distributor for Young Living, cooking up new DIY recipes for house and home.

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

Hands off!

Ok, apparently I'm only blogging nowadays when something ticks me off. I'm up for another rant. It seems I have found another glaring example of how common sense has died. Sorry.
A school in Virginia has now banned touching between students. All touching. Now, at first glance, you can concede this may not be so bad. You don't want your 13-year-old making out in the halls. But this rule goes as far as to ban high fiving and putting your arm around a fellow student. Punishments for giving your pal a high-five include up to suspension, if you've been "previously warned." Really!?!
I saw an interview with the PTA president of this school. The first question was, naturally, "Do you support this?" She replied, "Well, it's common sense...of course I do." What?! Common sense tells you the opposite! Her point was a fear of kid puts his arm around a "girlfriend," the next kid wants to hug, the next wants to kiss, and so on. One boy high-fives, it turns into bumping chests, it grows to several kids bumping chests, and so on. Where are the teachers in this school? Are these kids unsupervised? Maybe the teachers are just lazy. Or afraid of being sued for telling kids to quit suckin face during lunch. Maybe the students have too much time between classes and their lunch is too long. If they want "touching" rules, make it an "inappropriate or unruly touching" rule. At least then, there is a little wiggle room. Teachers can use ::key word:: common sense to determine whether a situation can escalate to be inappropriate or needs to be addressed, or whether it's harmless growing up. Going through the chain of command on punishments that my school had would serve as a checks and balances system against faulty sense. I'm a believer that as individuals, many of us have good sense. We know when something is generally right or wrong. It's only in numbers that our sense dwindles.
Kids learn through interaction. They have to make mistakes and they have to be able to progress naturally with their friends. Remember your first "boyfriend" or "girlfriend"? Mine was in middle school. Holding hands during lunch...Forget your boy/girlfriend. What about your best friend? How many times did you hug your best friend after passing off a note in between classes? What about when she broke up with her first boyfriend and was so upset? Didn't you console her with your arm around her, giving her a shoulder to cry on?
On top of all this, middle school kids are at a very rebellious age. I remember in 7th grade, my mother wouldn't let me dye my hair. So, at school one day, I colored a fat streak in my blonde hair with a pink highlighter. I didn't dye it, did I? So, yea, lets tell them NOT to touch. Don't most middle school kids do the opposite of what they're told, or at least try to find a way around it? The bigger deal we make of not doing it, the more they will want to.
If there are kids touching inappropriatly in schools, this is not a student body problem, this is a parenting problem. The situation should be addressed and parents notified of what's going on and that it's unacceptable school behavior. You don't need a touching ban to deal with that. All you need is a little common sense!

Tuesday, June 05, 2007

I've been tagged!

Crystal tagged me here. I don't know if I have 5 blogger least, not 5 who are on regularly...we'll see how it goes..

Here is what you do…remove the blog in the top spot from the following list and bump the others up one place. Then add your blog to the bottom spot.

Next, select five people to tag.

What were you doing 10 years ago?
10 years ago I was a whopping 14. I had just finished middle school, living in NC and going out with my first real boyfriend. What a special time ;)

What were you doing a year ago?
1 year ago I had just been married. I was living in South TX, hanging with my hubby, eating out and tanning at the pool.

5 snacks that you enjoy
I'm not really a big snacker...
smartfood popcorn!
Auntie Anne's pretzels
french fries
honey nut cheerios

5 songs that you know all the lyrics to
I think it would be harder for me to think of 5 songs I DON'T know the lyrics to (I've been accused of knowing every song ever). I think I'm going to cop out on this one ;) It's simply not a good gauge of me, but maybe I'll try a fun cross-section...
Michael Jackson's album of #1 hits
the score of Newsies
Best of the Beach Boys
Yeah! by Usher (including the Ludacris rap part)
Faithfully by Journey (our wedding song)

5 things that you would do if you were a millionaire
pay off everything
save some for the kiddos
help out the fam

5 bad habits
eating out
staying up too late with no reason
watching too much crap on TV..even though it frustrates me, I still watch!
caffeine and sweets too late in the day

5 things that you like doing
pretty much anything with my hubby
snuggling with my kitty
playing sudoku online

5 things that you would never wear again
Dry clean only clothes (me too, Crystal! I check all labels!)
short shorts
heavy makeup and liquid foundation
bell bottoms
jeans with no back pockets

5 favorite toys
my kitty
the magic bullet
my paper cutter
fun cut scissors

Have fun girls!